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I resonate deeply with this. I don't want children either. I think even if I become financially abundant, I would rather become a mentor to kids than being a mother. The emotional and psychological well-being of a child is not something that should be taken lightly. I might sound a little harsh, but I really think a lot of people don't consider that before they decide to have children. Some people are just incapable of reflecting a child's emotional needs because they have not worked on many difficult aspects of their personality and that is just a fact. If they eventually fail to realize the emotional needs of the kid, then the child grows up with a broken self-image. Needless to say a lot of people after growing up rely on addiction as a way to validate their existence. I appreciate your awareness and decision of not having kids when you know for sure you are not ready for this lifelong responsibility.

Sorry deleted the previous comment because I made some type :)

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Jul 15, 2022Liked by Val Saksornchai

I feel you on this and all your reasons. Growing up, I've never seen the appeal of children. I think because I'm also an only child, I also didn't really have contact with "kids". Now that I'm older, I see the appeal of having children and I get why people would want to. But I think like you, I value my freedom and finances more. Maybe that will change - who knows - but this is where I am right now!

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Sep 3, 2021Liked by Val Saksornchai

I don’t want kids as well and the reasons are the same with you especially the 2nd reason. Taking care of some one you love whos part of your life does gain all my concerns to them and I’m not happy with that 🤣

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Sep 3, 2021Liked by Val Saksornchai

For me, I want kids just because the world is too beautiful to keep it with myself alone. But I never judge or comment on people who do not want kids. It is a lot of responsibilities. I'm even okay with adoptions since there are many orphanages in this world already. And yes, still people got scared of it. Once I got commented that I am fine with adoptions because I wanted to keep my body shape. wth.. (facepalm)

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Jan 18, 2022Liked by Val Saksornchai

Children are indeed expensive, but there are far more important things in this world than money. The parent-child bond is one of them......Children are indeed a huge responsibility, but with huge responsibility comes huge reward. There is nothing which compares to the feeling of just watching your child smile, its priceless......Children do limit freedom, but they also expand the emotional highs & lows of life on planet Earth....Of course, as a parent, I am biased. Enjoy your blog very much...

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Sep 6, 2021Liked by Val Saksornchai

Everyone who has children, has told me that something changes in the process of being a parent, that you can't appreciate until you have had that experience. So I guess the challenge is, for any of us saying we don't want to have children, we are missing the crucial information that would let us truly make a well-informed decision. Of course, it isn't such a good idea to have children and then make the well-informed decision afterwards that you don't want them.

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