I do think it's a delicate dance to get involved vs. let go in others' decisions, especially for those you genuinely care about and have their best interests in mind. Ultimately, I believe we can voice our care and opinions as long as it's coming from a place of love and understanding, BUT the key is to not feel attached to our own advice (and not get frustrated when they don't take it on).
This question really reminds me of my relationship with my younger brother, who's 12 years younger than me! A lot of times, I impose my ways on him because, duh, I know better! Recognizing that this is my own ego talking, I've come to embrace his opinions and methods that are different from mine. We all have our own ways of doing things and we'll never know which is "better" or "worse".
Thanks Fair for sharing! And I really agree with you that the key is to not feel attached to our own advice and attempt to impose it on the other person, however young or inexperienced they may be. Someone said to me once that advice is like a gift, and we should view it as such. We can only give it, and what the other person chooses to do with it is completely up to them and out of our control.
I do think it's a delicate dance to get involved vs. let go in others' decisions, especially for those you genuinely care about and have their best interests in mind. Ultimately, I believe we can voice our care and opinions as long as it's coming from a place of love and understanding, BUT the key is to not feel attached to our own advice (and not get frustrated when they don't take it on).
This question really reminds me of my relationship with my younger brother, who's 12 years younger than me! A lot of times, I impose my ways on him because, duh, I know better! Recognizing that this is my own ego talking, I've come to embrace his opinions and methods that are different from mine. We all have our own ways of doing things and we'll never know which is "better" or "worse".
Thanks Fair for sharing! And I really agree with you that the key is to not feel attached to our own advice and attempt to impose it on the other person, however young or inexperienced they may be. Someone said to me once that advice is like a gift, and we should view it as such. We can only give it, and what the other person chooses to do with it is completely up to them and out of our control.
I guess the challenge is when our futures are, to whatever degree, intertwined.
True. Then it can get messy really fast...