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It seems that the nature of human psychology is to remember the good things more rosily and to feel the sting of hurtful events less intensely with time. That is why we feel the past with such nostalgia.

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True. There is also the negativity bias which has been scientifically identified where humans perceive negative events as being more salient than positive events of the same magnitude. I wonder how these two contradicting observations fit together. Maybe the key is time...

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I think having downs allows me to slow my life ,know more about myself and get closer to my friends and family.

During the ups, I usually feel I am a one-man army to do and achieve things alone. I’m happy but sometimes it is too fast for me.

During the downs, I learn that I can be sad and stressed. I learn more who I am and I can express those emotions. I got connected more to myself. And I would never believe that every friends and family members that I reached out give me incredible supports without judgement. We became closer as well :)

Also us too 😁

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Aw I love that reflection. It is so true, and I am similar. During the ups I'm just powering through and doing things without stopping to reflect. It's when I'm down that I slow down and start to take stock of my life. I'm hoping that I've reached a place now where, during my ups, I also stop to reflect on what's happening so I'm more intentional and thoughtful in what I do without getting swept up by life. Sending a tight big hug from HCMC. :)

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I think it's very easy to see the bad side of things...and there is A LOT of bad to see. There are too many people spouting off on how bad everything is. We need a little positivity in our world. My favorite quote is about positivity...it is also a little twisted, just like me ;)

“A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort.”

― Herm Albright

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Hi Sheeby! That's a great quote—I love it! 😆 I've never thought of it that way. It seems wicked to take pleasure in annoying others, but I totally get what it means. And maybe I've actually been taking pleasure in that at a deeper level without admitting to it all these years.

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