'Making the ask' is my latest challenge to myself. It's why I finally started on Substack (also inspired by Val Thinks!) But it was terrifying at first to contemplate putting myself in front of people like that.
The conversation I had to have myself was "Whatever happens, the ask probably won't kill me. And even if I 'ask' poorly, as long as I'm willing to do the work to clean up, then things can still work out."
Thank you for this newsletter! I barely ask for some things especially at work. And this cause me in the tough situations many times. Sometimes, I asked late and bad things happened already. I’m trying to remind myself and asking myself, is it the time to asking for help? It’s end up with not asking for help. When I read your newsletter, it encourage me to practice asking more and earlier❤️
But when it comes to ask somethings from my friends, I quite dare to ask. I’m not afraid of “no” because I understand my friends that they have the reasons and it’s fine for me. I think it’s about trust and belief.
Paddy! Thank you for sharing your experience. And I understand it can be difficult to ask for help at work. I find it hard myself but it gets easier I promise. Sending warmest wishes from HCMC! ♥️
You are right that asking has a catch. I think most of the time we don't ask because we're afraid to lose face with the person we're asking. We're afraid they will perceive us as someone who befriends or connects only for transactional purposes.
Not asking means not taking chances. By default, we lose all the shots we never take. I think asking requires bravery and trust—brave enough to face rejection and trusting that the person we ask understands they have choices.
It goes back to what you said: if we're okay with a "no." Honestly, it helps to reduce the pain from rejection.
Thomi! It has been so long and I'm so glad to see you're still reading Val Thinks. Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts. I hope the app is going well for you. 😊 I remember promising you user feedback way back when that I haven't delivered on. If it's still something you'd value, DM me and let's take it from there. (I think we're connected on IG?)
'Making the ask' is my latest challenge to myself. It's why I finally started on Substack (also inspired by Val Thinks!) But it was terrifying at first to contemplate putting myself in front of people like that.
The conversation I had to have myself was "Whatever happens, the ask probably won't kill me. And even if I 'ask' poorly, as long as I'm willing to do the work to clean up, then things can still work out."
Hear hear, and WELCOME TO SUBSTACK!
Asking is something I struggle to do. Thank you for this reminder! And I’m so glad Substack connected us 🥰
Me too! I feel blessed to know you Katie. 🥹
Thank you for this newsletter! I barely ask for some things especially at work. And this cause me in the tough situations many times. Sometimes, I asked late and bad things happened already. I’m trying to remind myself and asking myself, is it the time to asking for help? It’s end up with not asking for help. When I read your newsletter, it encourage me to practice asking more and earlier❤️
But when it comes to ask somethings from my friends, I quite dare to ask. I’m not afraid of “no” because I understand my friends that they have the reasons and it’s fine for me. I think it’s about trust and belief.
Have a good weekend❤️
Paddy! Thank you for sharing your experience. And I understand it can be difficult to ask for help at work. I find it hard myself but it gets easier I promise. Sending warmest wishes from HCMC! ♥️
You are right that asking has a catch. I think most of the time we don't ask because we're afraid to lose face with the person we're asking. We're afraid they will perceive us as someone who befriends or connects only for transactional purposes.
Not asking means not taking chances. By default, we lose all the shots we never take. I think asking requires bravery and trust—brave enough to face rejection and trusting that the person we ask understands they have choices.
It goes back to what you said: if we're okay with a "no." Honestly, it helps to reduce the pain from rejection.
Thomi! It has been so long and I'm so glad to see you're still reading Val Thinks. Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts. I hope the app is going well for you. 😊 I remember promising you user feedback way back when that I haven't delivered on. If it's still something you'd value, DM me and let's take it from there. (I think we're connected on IG?)